Zarina Dara 🥀💃🏻
1 min readOct 2, 2018

So true. I have tried throughout my life to understand the other side of people’s stories, even those who caused me damage by their words, actions or neglect, and once I have safe distance, to review what happened with compassion. I’ve not always been successful, and some things cut deep— but I also realise that I have said and done things in the past — out of hurt, or my own survival (on a mental and emotional level) which have caused hurt to others. And although it is easier to see the harmful dynamics, once I have safe distance, I still have to acknowledge what was said and done, on all sides, in terms of finding forgiveness for all involved — even me. I’m not always successful — it’s a lifelong practice — and sometimes it is hard not to hold a grudge when people’s motivations are unclear. But in the end, we only harm ourselves by doing so. Buddhist principles of non-attachment help — but it’s also there in all true spiritual paths. And this doesn’t mean keeping harmful people in our lives — it is about letting go with love and compassion. ❤️❤️❤️

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Zarina Dara 🥀💃🏻
Zarina Dara 🥀💃🏻

Written by Zarina Dara 🥀💃🏻

sneaking poetry into the corners of the day, and telling stories to myself in grasp of sanity.

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